May 14th, 2008
|08:21 am - Politics schmolitics|
Excerpted from a Yahoo news story:
"I remember what it was like in 1980, when the people who didn't win tore our party up," (Hillary) Clinton told a Democratic Party dinner in Billings, Montana, according to a report from ABC News. "And I'm here to tell ya that however these last states come out, my candidates, our family and our supporters will be here to get a victory in November for the Democrats."
Hillary, I hold you to this. However your campaign ends, don't let it end divisively. Find a way to step down gracefully.
By the way, this is the best website I have seen in a long time: Things Younger Than John McCain.
Also, I now have 29 votes of support for my nomination to the LJ Board.
If you think I would be a decent candidate, and want to express your support, don't forget to go here:
May 12th, 2008
|11:40 pm - Procrastinate with me...|
Fill this out in the comments. Reposted from fetteredwolf
Entertain me while I procrastinate...
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|09:55 am - Obscure Treasures Meme|
I'm making up another meme.
What are five obscure gems about which you think people should know?
1. Paul's Boutique by the Beastie Boys - The greatest Beastie Boys album of all time
2. Guayaki Yerba Mate - Tasty, delicious, and gives you an extra oomph without giving you caffeine headaches.
3. "Drug Ballad" by Eminem - The best Eminem song ever. And one of the best descriptions of addiction in any medium.
4. Brenda Kahn is the greatest folk singer no one has ever heard of.
5. Leaving Normal and Sammy and Rosie Get Laid are the greatest movies no one has ever seen.
May 9th, 2008
|08:01 am - A Haiku for the Comm Ave Accident|
fiery car crash
only minor injuries
still, hits close to home
May 8th, 2008
|06:55 pm - In case this story got buried...|
I found this story buried in Google News and thought it was too important to not make sure people noticed: A New York court has refused to even hear, much less overturn, an appellate court ruling stating that out-of-state same gender marriages have to be recognized. This paves the way for New York to simply allow same gender couples to marry, and is very, very important in the process of achieving marriage equality across the country.
But please note something else disturbing I learned: If you Google this news story, some of the top links that come up are for anti-queer "news" sites. Two of them are clearly anti-choice organizations, if you poke around a little. What tipped me off to their inauthenticity was their repeated use of putting the word marriage in quotes when referring to same-gender couples. This is very consistent with the insidious, clever, and manipulative tactics used by the anti-choice movement, like co-opting use of the word "life" for their own agenda.
It's quite disturbing, I think. In a more distracted moment I might not have noticed whose news story I was reading. And considering much of the people in this country only rely on quick soundbytes and TV news for their information, you can see how easy it is to manipulate people around things like...elections.
|08:12 am - On Clinton and Obama|
I was listening to an NPR program on the current state of the Democratic race last night, and it occurred to me that if the Democratic party wanted to end the race, they could do so, by putting pressure on all 268 of those uncommitted superdelegates to declare their votes. And as the superdelegates are the leadership of the Democratic party, they have more invested in the Democrats doing what is best for the party in the fall than anyone else.
My initial instinct was, come on, declare already so this thing will be over. But that is born out of my own anxiety, anxiety I see reflected in a lot of the commentary and news out there.
Upon further reflection, I concluded that the decision to prolong the race may in fact be very strategic. Who is talking about McCain right now? No one. He's growing older and more irrelevant with each passing day. On the other hand, whoever comes out the winner (and mathematically almost certain to be Obama) is getting daily press and attention. And that keeps the focus solidly where the Democrats want it: On them, and on the changes they want to see happen.
Incidentally, my unstatistical sample of 2 down in Arizona (one registered Republican, one registered independent) is that McCain is "old" and unpopular, and either Democrat is looking pretty good in comparison.
May 6th, 2008
|01:37 pm - This weekend|
UPDATE: Thanks to the 27 people who have voted so far to make me a nominee. I still need 73 more.
Also, the landscape of my soul exploded all over the place this weekend. There is no way to describe the Grand Canyon, and pictures do not do it justice. The only thing comparable I have experienced is Petra, Jordan. The only word I have is WHOA.
That was what I took from the 4 months I spent in Israel in 1995 - harnessing the power of WHOA and learning to try and maintain that attitude toward the world, when the world wants to get you down and beat you back - whether it is day-to-day drama or anxiety about who our next president will be, or the encroaching environmental disaster we our living in. There is still a lot to be amazed by in this world.
May 5th, 2008
|07:47 pm - Vote for me!|
I've decided to see if I can get enough nominations to be on the LJ Board. Drop a comment saying you support my nomination, if you think I would e a good candidate:
I need 100 people to support me.
April 30th, 2008
|11:42 pm - This is how I feel about the world most days|
The Peace of Wild Things
by Wendell Berry
When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children's lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.
April 28th, 2008
|11:52 pm - The happiest band on the planet|
Spontaneously saw Poi Dog Pondering perform tonight at the Paradise Club. You want to know how spontaneous it was? We were driving to the gym, and I saw the marquee across the street. kaphine pulls a U-turn and I run in to see what time the show is. We go work out, grab a quick bite to eat, and make it in time for the 9:15 start.
I haven't seen them for 10 years, because they've been mostly performing in the Chicago area. But they haven't changed much, in their essence, though they have many new songs. It is impossible to not feel hopeful and happy when you see them perform. And G-d knows we all need more of that these days.
They played a couple new songs, and a lot of old stuff, including one of my all time favorites:
"Bury Me Deep" by Poi Dog Pondering
A lifetime of accomplishments of which the dirt knows none,
only in death can one truly return
Return the carrots, the apples and potatoes,
The chickens, the cows, the fish and tomatoes.
In one glorious swoop, let the deed be done
and bury me deep so that I can be one...
And all around my muscle and all around my bone,
don't incinerate me or seal me from
the dirt which bore me, the bed that which from
the rain falls upon and the fruit comes from
For the dirt is a blanket, no fiery tomb,
No punishment, reward, or pearly white room
And you who say that in death we will pay,
The dead they can't hear a word that you say
Your words are not kind, sober or giving,
they only put fear in the hearts of the living
So put away your tongues and roll up your sleeves,
and pick up your shovel and bury me deep.
Not sure who else on the planet could make a song about death sound so happy. You have to hear it.
April 24th, 2008
|08:58 am - Well, that's weird|
First: Fun with contacts this morning. Discover there are mysteriously two contacts in the left side of my contact case. Put one in. OK. Put right contact in. Eye blurry. Take it out, rinse it. Put back in. Eye still blurry. Repeat. At this point, my right eye is now irritated, so I decide, fuck it, I'll wear my glasses. II take out my left contact, put on glasses. Mysteriously, now my left eye is blurry, and my right eye is perfect - without my glasses! No, it's not a miracle cure for myopia, I conclude - I have somehow put one contact in and was trying to put a second one in, hence the blurriness. Put left contact BACK in, and go about my day.
Second: Matzah is matzah, right? Then why does one ordinary sheet of matzah have a different calorie count, depending on the brand? That's right. Yehuda matzah ranks highest at 125 calories. Streit's is only 100. King David is 114. Could someone explain this to me, please?
April 23rd, 2008
|01:47 pm - Election Aftermath|
So Clinton won Pennsylvania, as we expected. But Obama cut her margin from 20% to 10%, which one would expect with someone who outspent her 4 to 1. Problem is for Clinton, she needs some landslide wins in order to make up ground, and that seems statistically unlikely to happen. But Obama needs a couple landslide wins in order for it to not look like he's faltering. I think he's more likely to get that than she is, with North Carolina and Oregon coming up.
I have concluded that the long drawn out battle between the two of them is not a bad thing. It's keeping them relevant, and McCain is only getting older and getting less relevant. His unwavering support for Bush and the Iraq War is also only going to look more and more stupid as the war drags on and the economy tanks. And consistently, both Obama and Clinton poll better than McCain in a potential national election.
The problem I see with the Democrats is this: If Clinton gets the nomination, I fear some of the younger, louder Obama supporters will go toward third party candidates, and that we may have another 2000 election on our hands, where Nader/whoever getting 5% of the vote really matters. But if Obama gets the election, I fear some working class, white Clinton supporters will go toward McCain. And that too could tip the election toward McCain.
The best thing I think that could happen for the Democrats is that the economy continues to plummet, because nothing sparks a strong turnout and a regime change like a poor economy. So, I'm rooting for a deep and long recession, one that ends around the middle of January, when hopefully Clinton or Obama takes office.
April 21st, 2008
|10:55 am - Passover wish|
The day before we left for our annual Pesach trip to Miami, it was the one year anniversary of the death of my father-in-law. We scattered one-third of his ashes in the Atlantic just outside of Boothbay Harbor, Maine.
Once down in Miami, we got a sad call from txladybug: Her brother lost his fight with his brain tumor, and died at twenty-five years old.
A year ago we got the call in Miami that things were nearing the end for my father-in-law, and we came home and left that same week to say goodbye.
So my Passover wish is this: May everyone I know be sealed in the book of life until next Passover, please. Could we have a reprieve from death, for at least a year?
In other news, the haggadah my mother and I put together seems to have gone over well. I used this amazing poem as one of the readings accompanying the blessing over the karpas, or the green vegetable.
by Judy Chicago
And then all that has divided us will merge
And then compassion will be wedded to power
And then softness will come to a world that is harsh and unkind
And then both men and women will be gentle
And then both women and men will be strong
And then no person will be subject to another's will
And then all will be rich and free and varied
And then the greed of some will give way to the needs of many
And then all will share equally in the Earth's abundance
And then all will care for the sick and the weak and the old
And then all will nourish the young
And then will cherish life's creatures
And then all will live in harmony with one another and the Earth
And then everywhere will be called Eden once again.
April 15th, 2008
|11:13 pm - Mount Hood Road Index 2.0 (Week 12)|
1. LIFE'S LITTLE INCONVENIENCES
Oh my fucking G-d keys just cannot stay put this week. We both manage to go into panic mode over losing our keys in two separate incidents in one twenty-four hour period. Is that a new record? realsupergirl's turn up under kaphine's laptop case, while kaphine's turn up at the CVS in South End. Mind you, both places had been checked in those locations before they were found there.
Also, lugging heavy stuff is an inconvenience. And so is bleeding, although after a particularly long cycle this month, it's still welcome.
2. THOUGHTS FOR FRIENDS
Two yarzheits this week: kaphine's father and grandfather. She's thinking of dead people she cares about. Also, she had a good phone conversation with TeacherRefPoet. It's good to begin trying to mend some fences. panfreak had a really miserable trip to the ER, and got some bad news this week. Finally, our thoughts are still with txladybug as her brother now battles psychosis as well as cancer.
3. THIS WEEK'S MEAL
It may not count as a meal, but realsupergirl made another batch of the World's Best Vegan Peanut Butter Cookies this week. Delicious! kaphine also whipped up a dynamite spontaneous salad with pea shoots, courtesy of Boston Organics.
We rented movies and highly recommend Who Killed The Electric Car? - Excellent, excellent documentary. Really shocking and appalling to see images of demolished, full functioning electric cars that hundreds of people offered to buy from General Motors rather than allow them to be destroyed. See it.
5. WHAT AM I GRATEFUL FOR THIS WEEK?
Manicures and pedicures, and massage chairs while you get them. And little whirlpools for your feet. MMMMmmm. Now we're ready to go to Miami. Having a deck, and a pleasant view. And for spring, which has brought the birds back, including a house finch and lots of sparrows, and made it warm enough to actually want to be outside. We're also grateful that there are plants like morning glories and hostas because they might actually thrive in our low light woodsy little porch/home.
April 9th, 2008
|10:43 pm - No, really, it's for research|
Someone in my writing group is trying to write a story that includes a three way, and she is struggling with how to write about this. Rather than have to hear details of her own friends' sex lives, I told her I'd ask my LJ friends if any of *YOU* would be willing to give her some details. If so, head on over to tsuki_no_bara's blog and let her know you'd be willing to exchange a few emails.
|01:10 pm - Hoping for blossoms|
This one is for txladybug, because for her now is not one of those times that death is "nowhere near the background." Send her your thoughts, your prayers, your hope, because we all need that from other people sometimes. I can't even begin to imagine facing what she's facing, what her parents are facing, what her brother is facing. Twenty-somethings should not be diagnosed with brain tumors. That is just not right. I feel as adolescently rageful at G-d as I did when I was 15, and learned that a friend had been killed instantly driving back from the coast, after their car skid on some gravel by the side of the road.
by Li-Young Lee
From blossoms comes
this brown paper bag of peaches
we bought from the boy
at the bend in the road where we turned toward
signs painted Peaches.
From laden boughs, from hands
from sweet fellowship in the bins,
comes nectar at the roadside, succulent
peaches we devour, dusty skin and all,
comes the familiar dust of summer, dust we eat.
O, to take what we love inside,
to carry within us an orchard, to eat
not only the skin, but the shade,
not only the sugar, but the days, to hold
the fruit in our hands, adore it, then bite into
the round jubilance of peach.
There are days we live
as if death were nowhere
in the background; from joy
to joy to joy, from wing to wing,
from blossom to blossom to
impossible blossom, to sweet impossible blossom.
April 8th, 2008
|05:12 pm - On Polygamy and the San Angelo Raid|
In case you have been living under a rock the past 24 hours --and often, I think under a rock is a very good place to be, by the way -- there was a massive raid on a fundamentalist Mormon cult in southwest Texas yesterday.
What is troubling to me about all the media coverage is the lack of distinction being made between "polygamy" and "suspected sexual and physical abuse."
Can we just be clear here? Child Protective Services would not, and did not, raid this religious cult because they practice polygamy. That (should be) their right, under religous freedom protections, as long as it is between consenting adults. And as Texas law states that a 16-year-old female can legally marry, if the marriage is between a 16-year-old and a 54-year-old, that's their business, as repulsive and disturbing as that sounds to me.
They went in because they received a call from a girl alleging physical and sexual abuse, and found reasonable suspicion that this abuse was widespread, as it often is in cults, because that's how they keep people from leaving. But it is consenting adults' legal right to belong to cults, just as it is consenting adults' legal right to belong to any religion they want.
I just think it is important to make a clear distinction here: I don't want the federal government legislating who I can marry, so I am not going to support the federal government's right to legislate whether a person can have one spouse or three spouses. But that's not why the raid in southwest Texas happened.
The comparison of same-sex marriage to polygamy was made a couple years ago in either Curve magazine or Girlfriends magazine - I wish I could find the reference. It's manipulated by both sides for their own end. I understand the fear that if we legalize polygamy (or polyamorous relationships, which would be the more gender-equal solution) then it opens the door for creepy arrangements in religious cults. Raising the age of consent in order to marry would help that --but maybe not. Whatever age you make it, there will be a risk for brainwashed young women winding up with abusive, controlling older men. But that's happening right now. We can't legislate to try and prevent it, we can only stop it when we find out about it. It doesn't make sense to take away other people's legal rights in order to prevent something that probably can't be prevented.
Most importantly, as deeply uncomfortable as I feel with the dynamic in polygamous communities, I don't think we should be legislating what goes on between consenting adults.
|10:33 am - He wants his Jesus back (A Poem)|
Apparently it's like poetry month or something? I was never very good at keeping up with events and schedules and things. I think every month should be poetry month.
But I'm posting a link to this poem, because it's awesome. For anyone who aligns herself with Christianity, or has ever done so, check it out.
Also, I got rejected by the Boston Theater Marathon, but I did get a really nice, warm-and-fuzzy rejection letter, claiming I made it to the very final cut, please submit again, blah blah blah. Upon second read, I'm slightly cynical that they sent the same thing out to all the rejects, but maybe they didn't. Anyway, I'm going to submit again, whether they like it or not. On Broadway, an OK movie, has inspired me to really focus on figuring out how I can get a play produced in this town. Let me know if you have any ideas.
April 7th, 2008
|09:53 am - Fantasy collapse|
Well, both my fantasy teams collapsed in the second round of the playoffs this year, thanks in large part due to Flip Saunders' decision to rest Chauncey Billups and Rasheed Wallace for most of the week (since in the real basketball world, the Pistons have locked up the #2 seed and need to get healthy for the postseason). Also, several players chose this week to underperform: Brad Miller, Manu Ginobili, even Tim Duncan had a quiet week. So, what this means is that now my teams can finish no better than third. Feh.
On to fantasy baseball: I've got a pretty good lineup this year, despite getting a lousy drafting position for the fifth straight time.
For now I've got this lineup -
Pitchers: C.C. Sabathia, Josh Beckett, Brandon Webb, Dan Haren, Jon Lester, Joe Blanton
Relief Pitchers: Kevin Gregg, Troy Percival, Hideki Okajima, B.J. Ryan
Batters: Jason Varitek, Nick Swisher, Howie Kendrick, Adrian Beltre, Derek Jeter, Torii Hunter, Kosuke Fukudome, Josh Hamilton, James Loney, Vernon Wells, Richie Sexson
April 6th, 2008
|10:05 pm - Mount Hood Road Index 2.0 (Week 11)|
1. LIFE'S LITTLE INCONVENIENCES
On Friday we discovered that our joint checking account was overdrawn, because our lovely, fabulous gym had erroneously charged us $761. They actually charged it earlier in the week, but we didn't discover it till Friday, when our mortgage went through and caused our account to overdraw. They've since credited us back, and what on_reserve calls The Gay Bank of Boston says it's no problem to refund us the overdraft charges, but none of this will go through till Monday, which means we were without joint funds all weekend. We're blessed to have money in our savings (which we wouldn't have had two years ago) and we got free massages(!) out of it courtesy of our gym - so, all in all, it's just a pain in the ass, nothing more. But it was anxiety-producing. And now it's over.
2. THOUGHTS FOR FRIENDS
A mutual friend is "a little bit pregnant" according to early tests, and all fingers and toes are crossed that things stick and progress and all that...we are also hoping her nausea subsides soon. realsupergirl is thinking a lot about museumgirl and txladybug and hoping they're OK... kaphine is overdue to mend relationships with swankette and reached out to her this weekend.
Karaoke - which turned out to be more fun than realsupergirl expected. When it's not in a bar in front of strangers, and instead is in a cozy room with friends, booze, and food - it rocks. Also, if you put musicals on she can't help but sing. kaphine sang a beautiful version of "Crazy" by Patsy Cline. Later this weekend we had brunch with friends and saw On Broadway, which was pretty good. Oh, and in between all that we re-grouted several tiles in our bathroom and re-caulked our whole tub.
4. ANNOYING THINGS IN THE NEWS
After going a whole year without a murder in our neighborhood of Boston, we ended that streak this past week. Also, kaphine found more evidence that the Bush regime is as evil as she always thought, provided by the March 28th "This American Life" on NPR. Link available on her blog.
5. WHAT AM I GRATEFUL FOR THIS WEEK?
Being more financially stable than we ever have been in our lives. Star Wars action figures. Buttons. Chocolate. Massages. NPR. New Yorker magazine.